Tips for Cultivating Female Friendships After 50

Making female friends is difficult as you get older. Finding friends after 50 is even harder. During this stage of your life, you need women friends. They understand how you feel because they're going through the same things. There's no reason to go it alone—and no reason you can't still foster once-in-a-lifetime friendships.

Take it slow: adult friendships are based on trust, which means taking the time to get to know one another. Think of it this way: you need to woo prospective friends—and potential pals have to woo you, too. Prime the pump so that you can reap the rewards.

Start saying “yes” to new experiences: in other words, quit finding excuses to say “no,” or else you'll never be in a position to meet new friends. Be adventurous and try new things because, at this stage of your life, making female friends involves leaving the safety of your comfort zone.

Sign up for a class: in this way, you're guaranteed to meet people who share your interests, plus you get to learn a new skill—whether it's knitting, yoga, or foreign language lessons, once you start to say “yes,” you can learn all sorts of new hobbies while meeting plenty of friendship candidates.

Consider the friends you want: there are all sorts of friends, from social buddies to true blue besties, so you have to decide exactly the kind of friends you want in your life. There's a fab book in The Shop that offers more tips for making female friends—pick up a copy of Friendships Don't Just Happen!: The Guide to Creating a Meaningful Circle of GirlFriends!

Throw your own event: the best way to make friendships after 50 is to bring your potential friends to you instead of playing a waiting game while you each wait for the other person to text or call first. Step up and plan a yoga session in your backyard, throw a dinner party, or put together a movie night.

You don't have to be lonely. Finding friends after 50 is harder, but it's all the more rewarding when you find the perfect circle of pals. How do you make female friends? Don't forget, you can find the ideal guidebook in The Shop!